musings of times past
So it has taken me a while to get back to you on this. This is not fully due to laziness (only partially).. I've actually been pondering it quite a bit. You see, the first semester I joined there were like 4 major social events. I went to Michigan, Buffalo, and Colorado... then had summer conference and a few more events the next semester. Anyway, at these events, there was a core group of people that always showed up (craziest parties of my life). I happen to catch the tail end of their careers and when they left... I wondered the same things you just asked me.
And so I went through a process of comparing my reality at that point versus the reality at my point of joining (i hope that makes sense). From what my feeble mind could decipher, I decided on one thing. Was this core group of partiers more hard core than others? No. "Periphery People" always showed up who could party close to as hard (usually not fully as hard, but close). Did they have cars? No, they usually convinced others with cars to come along (Nice!).
The fact of the matter was, they all liked each other. They were true friends. @ brought them together and was how they saw each other.. events, conferences, etc. And so, in a way, that HAS in fact changed a bit. I see far less inter-LC friendships that are able to transcend distance. And, there are far fewer truly crazy people.. the kind that will spend hours and weeks organizing a big fucking party so that their equally crazy friends will drive 8+ hours (12 to buffalo for us) one way to hang out for like 36 hours. This is when you know you have serious friendships, and a mix of compatible people.
Now, I know that, like myself, you lack certain brain tissue that most other humans have. You probably would drive 8 - 12 hours for 1.5 days with some rad people. But are there other people in @ willing as well? This was the agreement. You come to mine, and I'll go to yours (I'll show you mine, you show me...).
So that, I think is how you reignite those flames. You gotta find people you really like, and they gotta be crazy. It's easier said than done, but man, it's really, really rad when it happens...