It was revealing: of where I've been, and where I am. What is happening and what is not happening.
I thought about this tonight during the 10th sprint of a devastating spinning class.
Then I came home and cooked in the oversight of Tom Petty. A duet with Stevie Nicks came on. They've shared some powerful songs. It's obvious they maintain a strong bond. In fact, I still wonder if they ever dated.
And this got me thinking about touch points. Those non-trivial experiences you share with others.
Some touch points are weak: sharing a beer within a group. A crossing of paths.
Some are strong: traveling together through Mexico. A journey together through victory and defeat.
Each shared experience adds another hook to the Velcro holding you together. More hooks. Stronger hooks. Each fortifies your mutual connection.
Some bonds grow stronger as I offer another hook... and they offer a ring back. We add another connection. A shared feeling, memory, touch.
Some strands grow weaker. They're unkempt. My offers don't stick; they find no ring. I miss. The Velcro weakens.
We intertwine as we add the hooks and rings of others.
Looking over the rate and strength of those touch points, it becomes obvious which relationships are fortified.
Some change. Some stay. Some wither. Some grow.
This is very difficult to control. And that drives me mad.